What every woman should know when it comes to seducing the man you want
2009-05-27
Seducing a man is not as difficult as it seems to be. It?s very easy to get ?your? guy to notice you. But it is laden with the risk of other guys noticing you too! The trick is to leave the guy unsatisfied?yes you read it right. Leave him intrigued so that he craves for more. However, first it's very important that you choose the right person to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything else, but most of us will attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner whom we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are.
The thrill of seduction sometimes lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself - this is especially true for men. But those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success. If the object of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and the place being wrong may also very well add to the thrill. If you're getting the right feedback from him (flirting), the knowledge that that he is interested but that you can't do anything about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement.
Now - just how do you know that he's interested? Your best clues come from reading his body language. His body signals are far better indicators of how he feels about you than anything he may actually say verbally. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to seduction of either sex. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than you'd normally expect, then chances are he?s quite interested. Trust your instincts and you'll 'feel' whether he's interested or not. Look for small gestures and tone of voice they tell you a lot about what he feels towards you.
Flirt. Flirt. Flirt. Important - we flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused, as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women?s signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something' good. And ladies, playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure him that you are 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth it in the end. Just beware that you may chase him away.
Once you've made it known that you are attracted to him, you'll need to let him know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things and headed in the same direction. The subtle approach is more likely to get you what you want. Remember, though, men generally take the lead in this area, even asking questions and trying to determine whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be that direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around 'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him some and this creates trust. Try discussing sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when talking with a potential lover, testing each other in a non-committal way.
Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction. Once you?ve talked a little about it, does he still seem interested? Look for signs of acceptance or rejection (remember rejection could depend on many things - perhaps you?re just too much of a woman for him). If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you think you fancy him. The right man is out there just waiting to be seduced by you!
Surrender - If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time to make your move. One of you must surrender. In all probability it will be you, because even if you initiated the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place.
Art of Seduction
Seduction has for ages been the most exciting interchange between man and woman. Though most people are clueless as to how to seduce, they do not mind being seduced! It requires some amount of practice to master the art of seduction. But hey, practice makes you perfect.
Read on for XEHER?S seduction tips and become an expert in the art of seducing a man. Its intent is to make a man feel satisfied-unsatisfied until he can have you. As for you, by following the simple tips, you?ll walk away with your prized trophy.
1. Create the Right Environment
Seduction is best done in a sensual atmosphere. Don?t leave any stones unturned to set the correct atmosphere for effective seduction. The lighting, ambience and other things should be comfortable. Make sure you are in a place where there is not much distraction like loud music, too many people and bad ambience. The ?where? is very crucial to your success. Choosing a Sports-Bar with the Arsenal Vs Manchester United game on may not be crowned with success. A private dinner with the appropriate romantic ambiance on the other hand will give you the best chances. Choose places where you can minimize distractions (and ideally competition). You must have his complete attention. Besides, the proper surrounding can be very stimulative. The best environment for seduction is a candle lit dinner and soft music, don?t under estimate its power.
2. The Power Of Scent
?The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments?. In a survey 89% of the men revealed that scents can enhance the attractiveness of women. 55% of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a women just because of her appealing scent.
The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments about the other sex. The way your scent is a vital factor of your success in seduction. You can compare it to pheromones in the animal world. A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang, jasmine and patchouli. They are known for their aphrodisiac properties. Shakespeare wrote, that Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately. Even that hopelessly that he gave his life for her.
Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind.
3. Show A Little, But Hide A Little More
There is a way to dress that drives men crazy. You need to find a compromise between showing and hiding your womanly qualities. It?s the right combination that makes the secret. Steer clear of the obvious. It is very important that you actually feel sexy. Accentuate your attractive features like eyes, lips or neck. If you find yourself gorgeous in the mirror, consider half of your job done.
4. Confidence Counts
Have the confidence of a super-model. Be a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. But be aware: there is also a thin red line, if you overdo it, you will most likely look arrogant instead of confident. Also watch your posture: keep a straight back, your shoulders backwards and expose your chest. A confident person has much more chance of seducing than a person who lacks it.
5. Voice Check
Nothing is more seductive than a gentle yet sensuous tone. Learn to modulate your voice to make it sound warm. No one wants a drill machine or even a hostel warden for that matter. The tone and pitch of your voice should be soothing to the ear and if you are very daring whisper something in his ear like "You look chic in blue".
6. Get in Close
Talk to him, and let him know you like him. Guys like to hear that they are wanted just as much as girls do. If he has a slim or medium build, say how strong he is. If he is not so smart, tell him how smart he is (at the right time). Say that it feels good when he holds you.
7. Send Signs Of Interest
Now it?s time to spread a little hope that the man you?re working to seduce does actually have a chance on you. Men are infamously bad at watching out for signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and make sure your signals are clear and that they convey to him from time to time:
1. Show unclenched hands
2. Play with your hair or caress other objects.
3. Push your fingers through your hair
4. Pick some fluff of his jacket (even if there is none!)
5. Face him directly and slightly lean forward every now and then
6. Wet and bite your lips from time to time but do not overdo it!
Experienced men can read these signs, the inexperienced, well, they feel that something?s going on.
8. The Magic of Anticipation
Now, here?s a good one. This is a variation of ?play hard to get?, which by the way is a very doubtful thing. If overdone it will harm you more than being of use. Instead, play a little game called ?anticipation?. Anticipation, excitement, and tension can be a huge turn-on for a man. Delay the gratification. Make two steps forward, one step back. Create a strong feeling of dissatisfaction in him. A dissatisfaction, which can only be resolved by having you. It must never seem to be easy for him.
?Make two steps forward, one step back?
Contradict yourself! Always pay a good deal less attention to your target than he pays to you. For every three times you feel him glance at you, glance at him once. Two steps forward, one step back. If he has not noticed you, do not visibly notice him. However, when your eyes meet, do not be the first to look away. This will give you the seductive power.
9. Killing Eyes
Start with almost accidentally sidelong glances. You can follow up with a direct look. Now something starts what can be described as playful innocence: The moment he looks back you instantly lower your eyes and put on an embarrassed smile. You can even emphasize that some moments later by looking again, this time longer and then again lower your eyes. There is no better sensation then that flirting without having to utter a word.
Remember eye contact is very essential when seducing the man of your dreams. They are said to be the windows to the soul and are capable of ?speaking? your deepest emotions and they say it better than actually talking! Lock him in a captivating glance and make sure you ?speak? with your eyes. However, learn to maintain a steady gaze. Staring or gawking is big no-no.
10. Touch Him ?Accidentally?
When you reach for something, try to accidentally touch his hand. Don?t make it too obvious. Also touch him briefly during the conversation to make a point or when he just made an interesting remark about something.
The secret is being playful with casually touches now and then. This creates tension and also a physical connection. And more importantly: it subconsciously communicates that you?re not interested in ?only being friends?.
11. The Power Of Dance
This one is short and simple: learn how to dance in a sensuous way and look for an opportunity for him to see. Don?t underestimate the power of this. Most women love to express themselves on the dance floor and nothing turns on a man more than dancing, as you can get intimate with each other without feeling awkward.
12. The Secret Ingredient
Now, there is a final ingredient to a successful seduction of the man who you like: He must not feel seduced. He must think that he seduced you, not the other way around. Give him his victory, let him be the hero. Men like that. It gives them a feeling of security.
DON'T FORGET
1.Be mysterious and playful
2.Awake the explorer in him
3.Flirt intensively with 90% body language and only 10% with words
4.Try to make an all-senses-explosion: looks, taste, music, touch & scent
5.Take care never to appear too needy
6.Play hard to get - Don't be too obvious in showing your interest, ignore him every now and then. But don't be so cold that he loses interest in you.
7.Smile, it is essential to break the ice and makes the atmosphere easy going. But just like eye contact, your smile should also be controlled.
8.Be yourself - There is no point in being someone that you
are not.
Seduce, surrender and enjoy.
