Evolution has taken place over the centuries, from ape to mankind, Adam & Eve and all the rest of it. Wondering why is it that today it can still seem on occasion we're stuck in the Alien Vs Predator bubble...
2009-05-26
So here we are in a very modern, fast forward, metropolitan society. Gone are the days of old fashioned values, placed neatly away in movies such as Gone With the Wind and Maine Pyar Kiya, where it was us men that were expected to approach the women and make the first move. Unsurprisingly, these values are pretty much still floating around in the minds of most of you ladies today, who sit and wait for your Prince Charming to come and whisk you off your feet. *Clearing throat*? it isn?t going to happen? not anytime soon to say the least.
Okay, let?s get one thing straight this isn?t any political argument or vendetta against you ladies, but simply the voicing of an opinion of what we men have to say about the whole boy meets girl situation.
Now fast-forward to the present day - Aren't we in the same picture frame that says HELLO to independent single mothers and women in high career positions? With much respect, you women have most definitely evolved in the world of the working woman today ? Ambitious, successful, and in positions that once only belonged to us, but yet one would think you ladies would be as strong and passionate about your dating lives, but that obviously isn?t the case.
I know from experience that there are assertive women out there, those who know how to call the shots in dating and can't be messed around with, but there are not enough of you!
The bottom line is, you women STILL shy away from being the initiators in dating. Why has it got to be the man?s job to get the ball rolling? After all, you girls hardly make it easy for us.
When it comes to making that first initial move, let me be honest about it, it can be pretty nerve wracking, and that stands for both men and women. I?ll set the scene for you ? boy sees girl, and girl clearly sees boy ? trust me, I?ve been there - girl makes it difficult for boy because we can?t work out if she?s giving us a dirty look, or giving us the eye ? it?s really hard to tell sometimes. So, we keep looking; trying to making it obvious that we?re interested, then finally pull up the courage to come over, and then? you turn your back and act oblivious to our very existence. Don?t pretend you haven?t done it, because we?ve all been there. At the bait of a woman?s ways?social suicide!
Whilst you women don't necessarily need men to throw pebbles at your windows and climb up the nearest tree to get to you, I can appreciate the fact that women do wish for some romance; at least the feeling that they are being pursued ? but that?s no excuse to be the way that you are. I mean, you want to stand by us shoulder to shoulder on the very same platform of us professionally, but when it comes to your personal lives, you simply slip back in time as though we were back in the Romeo and Juliet days. Come on and get real; at the least meet us half way.
Sometimes I wonder if most of you women belong to some kind of cult club ? no disrespect, it?s as though most of you have vowed to yourself that as a female who is simply terrified of rejection, you shall keep up with your tradition of never, ever, ever approaching any member of *gasp* the opposite sex. Regarding us men as another species altogether, eternally unapproachable.
We men clearly make the first move with you women, fearless and unafraid of rejection, persistent even upon discouragement, but you women, being the *rolling eyes* ?fairer? sex find it a lot harder for some odd reason.
Don?t get me wrong ? I'm not saying the next time you see a guy that your interested in, you should pounce on him and begin ripping his clothes off (although most of us wouldn?t mind), but show us some loving, let us know your there.
One study I read stated that women use 52 different flirtatious body language gestures to show a man that they like him. I guess it?s true ? you do know how to get our blood rushing, but then leave us hanging at the same time. On the flipside of that, we men use only 10.
Now in case you?re thinking, ?damn the guy, who?s writing this is either damn right ugly, or has just had the worst experiences ? or maybe worse, he knows NOTHING about women?, please please let me reassure you, I?ve been in my fair shares of odd scenarios, not to mention, good research went into making these comments. Of the many guys I spoke to and heard from, the absolute majority said exactly what I was thinking. Without even realizing it, you women really do know how to bruise egos and make us wish we simply hadn?t tried in the first place. So correct me if I'm wrong, but the longer this goes on, the more us guys are going to have to resort to some other random, strange approaches towards you women, which I guess could end badly. But hey, we don?t mind trying! Take a few minutes to think of ALL those times when you've fancied someone and never done anything about it. Isn't there just the slightest chance that we too might have liked you and perhaps just been too shy to do anything about it?
In reality, it's a hit and miss. Added to the already complicated equation is the notion that some of us men are just out for a shag, so whilst you want to get to know us, there?s the strong possibility we might just want to get you between the sheets. In that case, we as guys can appreciate your hold ups with the whole dating thing and I can say this myself as a guy ? that nightclubs probably don?t contain the greatest samples of potential partners, not for either of the sexes.
From the law of averages, a "no" is one step closer to a "yes", they say. We men find a woman who is confident enough to basically admit, "hey, I like the look of you." more attractive for having done so. Perhaps you should follow our example of picking ourselves up and dusting ourselves off if we should fail. Trust me; most of us are complete experts at it.
Happy endings are a girly thing. Maybe it?s a woman?s fear of being rejected from the opposite sex that stops you from being forward. Just the same fear as men hold, who likes being rejected? No one, but it doesn?t stop us from making the first move.
You all dream of being swept off your feet by some Prince Charming. In that case, we would have made the first move, but think about meeting us half way. There is also the important point that if you yourself never go for it, you'll never know. Unlike the famous lyrics of James Brown, why don?t you try proving us wrong, and at the least aim to show us that it?s not always a man?s world?
